1. To cause to believe what is not true; mislead.
2. Archaic To catch by guile; ensnare.
1. To practice deceit.
2. To give a false impression: appearances can deceive.
They say, the right choice to make is usually the hardest one. I believe this to be exceptionally true when decisions are made in regards to the deceptive people in our lives. We all have them, all wrapped up in pretty packages, seemingly caring and concerning – your closest friends even at times. And then, as you peel away the pretty wrapping…. Something entirely different and often times very ugly appears.
And deceivers are rarely ever alone – they drag with them a congregation of people they have pulled into their lives – people that you’ve gotten to know as well. People like you, who want to believe in the best in people, to trust others and build decent, healthy relationships. They have taken the art of deception, fakeness and lies and turned it into an art form. And we are the ones, that have to make the decision – to draw the line in the sand for what we will and won’t tolerate anymore once they’ve been uncovered.
What do you at that point? Out them for who and what they really are – what purpose does that really serve? You aren’t going to change them – but you will cause a lot of drama and pain for the people they’ve surrounded themselves with. But do you want to watch the good people around them, go through the pain and anger you have? It’s a hard choice to make and not one that anyone can give you the answers to – most assuredly, you have to work that one on your own.
I often wonder what it is that has made people in SL this way – did something so traumatic happen in their real life that they have no concept of the real people behind the avis here? Were they not loved enough as a child? Were they simply born with no conscious? Or maybe they didn’t intend to be this way – maybe they are simply a product of what they have surrounded themselves with and it’s easier to be something you’re not than be yourself. Maybe it only starts with one little untruth – what they do for a living, how their health is, something in their real life they simply aren’t ready to own up to in this world of pixels where it is so easy to hide.
We all come here to be a little something we’re not I think – taller, shorter, skinnier, bigger – maybe we come here to do the things we can’t do in our real life – maybe we just want to play awhile and be furry, vamp (add your choice here) – but underneath whatever we wrap second life identity in – we are still the same *people* behind the avi that we are in real life. Pixels don’t change that. How can you be honest with others – to expect to receive honesty back – when you can’t be honest with yourself?
I’ve opened some of those pretty packages recently. I took the time to know some people that at first glance, over a month or two or three – I shared my life with – I shared my friendship with – I shared my heart with. As time went on, and their true colors started to emerge, I did what many others do, I tried to ignore it, tried to hope for the best – that maybe they weren’t quite what they were turning out to be. And then, I took a step back, saw them for who and what they were – looked around and what they were doing to me – and others close around me – and so the decision making began.
I’m not generally a big fan of drama (super bowl fiascos don’t count). I don’t like talking about people behind their backs – after all – maybe the experience I’ve had with them is different than others. So my choice was to walk away. To leave them with their deceptive ways – to let them be the grown ups they are, make their own choices and deal with their own consequences as they come.
Make no mistake about it – there will be consequences for them. Maybe not today or tomorrow – but somewhere along the way – all that you’ve given – comes back – and if what you’ve given is a load of shit to everyone around you – do you really think you’re going to get the pot of gold in return?
This post won’t matter to anyone who is a deceiver, a liar, a fake – they’ll read it, chuckle a little at the ramblings of what they consider a bitter woman and move on to the next person on their list to play into their game of shattered lives. But to the rest of you, maybe it will help you take a step back, evaluate the people in your life and take a moment to be thankful for the ones that are true to you.